by Mary Ann Mok (大頭媽/牛媽)
我的細囝叫牛仔,人家暱稱我做「牛媽」,但我曾經是一個「虎媽」。我痛恨自己曾有強迫孩子修讀坊間公式化語文及數學科目的黑豬紀錄。試過好儍瓜因為想女兒入讀自己心儀的小學,望著「宗教信仰」一欄掙扎應否剝奪女兒選擇宗教的自主權而展開腦交戰。曾經好迷失嘅我,更不能忘記因牛仔無心向學,晚晚將他毒打,直到他練成銅皮鐵骨,金剛不壞之身,才在沒他辦法的情況下自己投降。
曾經淪為「虎媽」所帶給孩子的不愉快經歷,或許這一輩子都不能抹去,但我承諾要每天努力學習做一個稱職的母親。
做人父母本來已經是一件很艱辛的事情,在香港這個壓力煲裏做家長就更加苦不堪言。孩子只得幾歳人仔,就要學七國語言,但諷刺的是每天卻未能有半句鐘和父母真情對話,皆因可憐的孩子已被千奇百怪的興趣班累透了,更遑論淪爲「運輸豬」的家長還有精力和子女溝通。
多接觸陽光與海灘可紓解孩子的壓力與情緒,令他們變得更開朗和積極。
讓孩子多參與運動和群體活動,既可鍛鍊他們的體能,更可提升他們的自我解決困難能力,令他們變得更獨立。
在沙灘長大的孩子,有無限空間給他們發揮創意。
六零年代的香港仍是一個經濟未起飛的城市,生活迫人。當年的父母只抱着一家人有屋住、有飯開,已經很滿足。假若能夠供子女多讀點書,簡直是一種奢侈。那些年,一旦子女成為醫生或律師,一家人的生活質素就即時...
by Mary Ann Mok ( Mui & Cowboy Mum )
Acknowledgement to Mikihiro Miyano and Sam Wong
GO GO GO…..pursue your dream my child. Japanese son, Kensei Ikeda (left) picture with Mui & Cowboy Mum (right) at home.
Windsurfing to me is something more than mere exercise. It is a representative of a number of things: a healthy life balance, harmony between nature, a life philosophy….It enables me to live my life to the fullest.
The sport provides me priceless experiences and great opportunities to meet fascinating people around the world. These are the wonderful things that I wish to sha...
by Mary Ann Mok (Mui & Cowboy Mum)
When you label someone as trash, have you ever think of the consequence? Labels suck. So do labellers. I beg you all not to use derogatory terms to label people. Parents in particular, don’t ever use such labels to hurt your children any more. Such consequences can always be so destructive that is far beyond your imagination…..
NOBODY is trash. CURVO is not trash….. Every CURVO has a story behind.
Ching Ming Festival, a traditional Chinese festival also known as Tomb Sweeping Day has just passed. It was sad to remember a cousin who died young. Ever...
by Mary Ann Mok (大頭媽/牛媽)
我係咪一件「垃圾」,唔係由你定斷。當你話人家係一件垃圾嘅同時,不如先問吓你自己又有幾咁唔似一件垃圾。當你標籤人家嘅時候,有無諗過後果會有幾嚴重?奉勸各位朋友,特別係天下嘅父母,無論你嘅子女有多激心,都千祈唔好再鬧佢哋係「垃圾」,唔好再話生舊叉燒好過生你。
「垃圾+垃圾+垃圾,從此唔再係一件垃圾......CURVO可能係世上垃圾中嘅極品。」
清明節剛過去,很傷感緬懷一個英年早逝的堂弟。年少時的堂弟,就是一個被社會標籤為無心向學,紀律欠奉,沒有前途的「垃圾」。當年,被視為冇得救的曳仔,大多會被屋企送往赤柱航海學校(赤航)寄宿。大概因為堂弟擺脫不了這個「垃圾」標籤,終於結束了自己的生命。
其實,只要當年堂弟能夠容忍一時之氣,制定好自己的目標,再用一套正確的方法、堅毅不屈、持續向目標進發,深信他總有一日能夠狠狠還那些瞧不起他的人一個耳光。盼望在天國的他能看到這些年,赤航出了不少傑出校友,包括海事處副處長曾文清、著名填詞人鄭國江、運動健將謝瑞麟和戚浩賢,他倆為香港歷史性奪得亞洲帆船錦標賽420船種銀牌。此外,近年赤航更有不少學生考進大學,打破赤航仔讀唔成書嘅標籤。今時今日,透過赤航上下一心的多年努力,學生已在不同範疇包括紀律部隊、酒店業及餐飲業有良好的發展,睇怕現今已再沒有人引用「垃圾」一詞去標籤赤航仔了。
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by Mary Ann Mok (Mui & Cowboy Mum)
If there is such a category as obstacle race in the Olympic Windsurfing, I have no doubt that the Hong Kong windsurfing athletes will sure to take the lead. One can never imagine how crowded Hong Kong can be especially when you have to squeeze into the subway train at rush hours, shuffle into a lift shoulder-to-shoulder…..queuing up for table at restaurants on holiday and not to mention the claustrophobic experience that you have to fight your way in the water when you go windsurfing at Hong Kong beaches.
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